Every bride knows that wedding planning is a lot of fun, but it can also be really tricky at times! Here, real brides reveal the wedding planning woes they’ve faced.
If you’ve been finding elements of your wedding planning a little difficult, you’re not alone, as these real brides reveal…
“Shortly after our engagement, one of my best friends told me she was pregnant. Although really happy for her, I knew that she would have a 4 month old by the time the wedding came around, so I told her straight away that we weren’t having children at the wedding. Because the baby wasn’t here yet, she didn’t seem too bothered. Everything was paid for, the table plan and place names were done, and then about 2 weeks before the wedding, she asked me if she could bring her baby. I had been so clear the whole way through every time we met up that she couldn’t bring the baby, and it only came up as a problem then! I explained that I couldn’t allow it because I had already told friends and family they couldn’t bring theirs (we had lots of children/babies around the time within the family, but most adults were pleased for the night off!) so we couldn’t make this rule just for her. We had a bit of an argument about it, and a week before the wedding she told us she wasn’t coming, at all!” Jade
“The RSVPs caused some serious arguments in my family. We sent an invitation to some of my h2b’s relatives, which included my fiance’s grandma, Sarah, but when we received the RSVP back, the name ‘Sarah’ was crossed out and replaced with ‘Sam’. They’d even written in the song request section of the card, ‘It will be Sam in place of Sarah’. It turned out that Sam was the new boyfriend of my fiance’s cousin, who no-one had ever met before. My groom was understandably upset, not only because his only grandma was declining to come, but also that no-one from the family had even bothered to ask him if they could invite this stranger. Things only got worse when my fiance’s mother rang Sarah to ask her why she wasn’t attending the wedding, and she said she had never even seen the invitation!” Kate
Bridesmaid dress dilemma
“For me, the bridesmaid dresses were the most stressful part of planning. I took my 4 bridesmaids to a recommended bridal shop to give them a proper experience – I wanted them to feel pretty and to have an experienced shop deal with all sizing and alterations issues. We placed the order with 8 months to go before the wedding. A month later she asked all the girls to come back in to confirm what size we wanted her to order, which was worrying as she had personally taken measurements in December. I confirmed that the dresses would still arrive 2 months before the wedding as we needed to have firm dates due to my bridesmaids being from all round the country. The agreed date arrived and she ignored all my emails and phone calls for 2 weeks, before finally answering the phone to tell me the dresses had been lost in the post, and the replacements wouldn’t arrive until 2 weeks before my wedding, meaning there wasn’t enough time to get the girls in for alterations. We tried to cancel the order but she refused. She even sent revised terms and conditions that I hadn’t ever signed with a completely new paragraph in it about bridesmaid dress dates not being guaranteed. We later found out that her glowing online reviews were all from herself or friends. In the end we found some lovely dresses that were nicer and cheaper so it all worked out, thank goodness.” Jodie
Nail colour fail!
“My silly hindsight bridezilla moment was over nails. I had kept really calm throughout the whole wedding planning procedure. 5 days before the wedding I had my wedding manicure done, and I hated the colour! Being British, I didn’t say anything in the shop, but made it home before collapsing into a fit of tears over them, much to the complete bafflement of my husband-to-be. With the collective help of him and my bridesmaids over some quite frankly ridiculous texts, I got my act together and got them repainted, but it does make me laugh now to think that after all the planning, it was the manicure that got me the most stressed.” Melanie
“When I got engaged two years ago, I asked my sister to be a bridesmaid and she agreed. My wedding is now four weeks away, and last week, she decided she didn’t like the bridesmaid dresses or shoes that my future husband and I had already paid for. She told me she wanted to wear something entirely different, and I said no, as it’s so close to the wedding – and she told me she didn’t want to be a bridesmaid in that case. I wasn’t entirely surprised, as she’s been looking for reasons to drop out for months, but now she’s complaining to family members that I removed her from the wedding text group and told her she’s not sitting at the top table and that I won’t pay for her hair and makeup!” Sarah
“Being a rather pale bride, I religiously went to sun beds 3 times a week for 3 months before my wedding. The week before the wedding I was feeling confident, and felt happy with my level of pre-wedding glow. This was before my neighbour stopped me to ask if I was going to have a spray tan ‘so I looked good in the pictures’. Why do people think it’s okay to say these things to brides!?” Hannah
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