It’s only natural to have a few wedding day worries when planning your special day, but don’t fret! We’ve called in the experts to help banish those common concerns…
With all eyes on you, thousands of pounds spent and months of planning involved, your wedding day can come with a whole lot of pressure. It’s only natural that you want your day to be exactly as you dreamed it. Here, four wedding industry experts share their tried and tested tips to ensure your wedding goes without a hitch.
THE TEST OF TIME
The challenge of combining your favourite wedding trends with a timeless approach you’ll love for years to come can be a tricky one. One of the most effective solutions is to ensure your day packs a punch of your personalities. Trends come and go, but this day will forever be all about you.
“Sometimes couples are torn between having a traditional cake or having something more fun that expresses their characters and helps tell their story. We often advise couples to have something that appears traditional but on closer inspection has subtle details to bring in other aspects of their relationship.
For example, we have designed a cake for Star Wars fans that appeared traditional but instead of piped lace detail, we included different Star Wars spaceships!” reveals Suzanne Thorp, Wedding Cake Designer at The Frostery.
The moment you walk down the aisle is one you dream of – the doors opening, the music beginning and you gliding down the aisle to your future spouse. It’s a short journey, but a scary one when all the attention is on you.
Amy Braund, Wedding and Events Manager at The Bingham, is here to reassure you. “Tripping as you walk down the aisle is another big worry for many brides. But, in the eight years I’ve been doing this job, I have not once seen it happen. No one is expecting you to rush, so take your time and enjoy every moment.”
It’s also not an experience you want to share with anyone other than your bridal party.
“Guests being late is a key concern for couples, who worry that late-comers may arrive at the same time as the bride,” explains Karen from Wedding Tea Towels. “We suggest putting a ‘please arrive for’ time on the invitation or letting guests know what time the ceremony will begin. That way there is no grey area as to when they should be seated by.”
GUEST LIST GRIPES
Almost every wedding venue comes with a limited capacity and, even if it doesn’t, your catering budget probably does. Inevitably, at some point your guest list is going to have to be scaled back. The crucial thing here is to manage people’s expectations as early in the process as you can.
“Save the dates are typically sent six to 12 months before the wedding,” explains Wedding Stationer Vaishali Shah of Ananya Cards. “For destination weddings, giving guests even more notice is preferable. Invitations should follow eight to 10 weeks before the big day, but again this will depend on what is right for you.” For example, if you’re having an adults-only wedding, parents will appreciate plenty of notice to arrange childcare.
“We are always happy to assist couples with wording their stationery,” adds Vaishali Shah, “especially when they have special requirements or would like to politely request cash in place of gifts without ruffling any feathers.”
KEEPING GUESTS HAPPY
They’re the friends and family you love the most and your wedding is the biggest party you’ll throw, so ensuring everyone has a good time is a priority. Don’t let what you think other people want detract from what you as a couple want from your day.
“Remember that this is your day,” encourages The Bingham’s Amy Braund. “Go with what you want for the food you choose and music you play. Your wedding coordinator can always provide advice on what works well if you’re struggling for ideas.”
A wedding that is uniquely yours and celebrates your personalities is what your guests will most want to see. They’re there for you!
Having invested hundreds if not thousands of pounds and many hours seeking out ‘the one’, last-minute panics about your dress are understandable. But don’t let them get on top of you.
“The dress either not fitting or being too big on your wedding day can be a source of sleepless nights,” explains Amy Braund. “This is why you have fittings not long before the big day, to ensure you have the perfect fit. It’s also why your team of bridesmaids are with you getting ready – you won’t be alone and there is always a solution.”
If you’re still feeling anxious, pack an emergency kit including a needle and thread and safety pins to keep in your dressing room.
Wedding worries can creep in at any point in the planning, but when they do, they needn’t be a disaster. Simply follow the expert advice of your wedding venue, suppliers and loved ones and you’ll be all set to have the wedding of your dreams.
(Main image credit: Nick Walker Photography)