In a muddle as to who makes the final cut? Read these tips on how to minimise your wedding guest list from Hen Party specialists Chillisauce …
One of the hardest parts of planning your special day is narrowing down the wedding guest list. It’s not until you start compiling such a list that you realise just how many people you know, how big yours and your partner’s families are, and, in some circumstances, even how many you know but aren’t particularly keen on and wouldn’t want to pay to attend your special day!
So how do you choose who should attend the whole day, who should just come along to the evening reception or who should be missed off the list altogether? Here’s a few handy tips from hen party specialists, Chillisauce, that will help along the way…
Should your entire families attend?
No. Unless of course you have relatively small families or are particularly close with everyone in your family. More often than not, you’re bound to have a dozen or so first, second and long-lost third-cousins – some of whom you might not know all that well or perhaps you haven’t seen them for the majority of your life. Don’t feel bad about not sending them an invite – even if your parents are pressuring you to invite them.
How many children are there?
It’s now becoming the norm for couples to decide that there will be no children in attendance, except for their own and immediate family (such as nieces and nephews). Not only do young children not truly appreciate the day, it can still work out to be a large overhead cost to feed them and we all know that parents are more likely to let their hair down if they’re not on child-watch.
If you do opt to not have children at your wedding, do be considerate and careful on how you phrase this to the other guests – their babies are their world and you don’t want to risk offending them.
Speaking of family, are you and your spouse paying for the wedding yourself? Or are you accepting financial help from parents and grandparents? If you’re allowing others to cover some or all of the costs, it’s only polite to give them a few spaces at the main event – to invite their best friends or the relatives that they really want there.
Do they have to travel far?
If you’re thinking of inviting family and friends from outside of town, it’s reasonable to only invite them to the evening if they don’t have too far to travel – even if it means they have to find accommodation.
However, if they have to travel (for more than a few hours, or even to another country), it can be deemed rude to offer them anything less than an invite to the whole day, otherwise there’s a good chance they just won’t attend at all – what with the costs they’re going to be incurring for travel and accommodation. Put yourself in their shoes, f the roles were reversed – would you attend?
Would you treat them? Would you buy them dinner? Would you lend them money? Would you go out of your way to help someone?
If the answer is yes, then they should most definitely be on the list to attend the wedding. If it depends on the situation, go ahead and invite them to the reception only, but if you’re not sure you would at all, then don’t feel bad about not inviting them.
Do you invite partners?
If you have a friend that is married, whether you know the spouse well or not, it’s only polite to invite both to the wedding/reception.
However, if you really want a friend to attend the wedding but they have a new partner that you don’t know that well, it’s not rude to not offer the friend a plus-one, instead letting them know they’re welcome to attend the reception. This is where you need to think of your wedding photos. Do you want to look back on your photos wondering who this person was?
Did they invite you to their wedding?
This isn’t petty, honest! If you’re unsure whether to invite a friend and they got married when you knew them, consider whether or not they invited you to their wedding, the reception or not at all. If you thought you were quite close but only got an invite to the reception, you wouldn’t be out of line only inviting them to your reception. Of course, if you didn’t get an invite but weren’t close at the time (but that’s changed now), make sure they’re on your list – for the day or just the evening? That’s up to you.
Thanks to Chillisauce.com for these great tips!