Keep that newlywed feeling alive and avoid the post-honeymoon blues with these top tips for making the most of married life…
Newlyweds are always on cloud nine. But once the honeymoon ends, the marriage begins. And married life is a whole new kettle of fish. To help sustain the honeymoon happiness, we team up with family-run furniture retailer Barker and Stonehouse to explore their thoughts on the latest research, which suggests married couples may just be neglecting one another…
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According to new data, commissioned by Barker and Stonehouse, many British couples (45%) are more likely to eat dinner on the sofa whilst watching TV than in the kitchen or dining area, despite dining together having multiple benefits for the relationship. Here are their top tips on keeping the marriage fun, strong and most importantly, lasting:
Nutritional Psychologist Antonia Magor says: “Having something to look forward to at the end of the day, such as cooking or sharing a meal, gives an excuse to catch up, talk, and to get our minds off life’s small stresses. It’s one of the few opportunities in our goal-driven lives that prioritises pleasure over productivity. It strengthens our bonds as a couple and can help to break down inequalities and issues.”
Top tips for a romantic ‘date night in’:
•Try to cook your favourite restaurant dish at home to help encourage spending time together in the kitchen
•Make it a regular occurrence and have something to look forward to mid-week
•Try different themes with matching movies, food and drinks to add a sense of excitement to the evening
•Invest in candles or fairy lights to add a subtle ambience to your evening
It’s important to take time out to try something new and enjoy one another’s company at mealtimes to keep the spark alive.
Share the load
It’s not all gifts and compliments that make a relationship or marriage work, but the small things we can do to make each other’s lives easier on a daily basis. Balancing out chores, weekend errands or even the school run can help prevent you feeling like you’re the only one that gets things done. Consider what your partner would prefer to do around the house and what makes sense for each of you to do; compromise and make a plan that you can both stick to.
Re-live the newlywed feeling
You’ll find that time between tying the knot and truly settling down together goes way too fast, and will be hard to believe the big day happened not-so-long ago. If you do start to feel like the memory is fading, bring the wedding album back out to reminisce together, or visit your wedding venue for afternoon tea or a weekend away. This will help bring back fond memories and allow you to spend some quality time together and relax.
To continue to bond and flourish together during the relationship, it’s refreshing to share your future aims with one another, and to even plan some of them together. There may be something adventurous you have always wanted to do, or a place you have both always wanted to visit but never got round to. Consider signing up for an enduring sporting event together, where healthy competition can add a sense of strength. Continue to talk about your dreams together and plans to make them a reality, which is a great way to support and encourage one another.
Remember perfection doesn’t exist
There’s nothing worse than busy schedules getting in the way of spending time with our loved ones, or feeling like life just isn’t going to plan, but remember: the perfect marriage doesn’t exist and therefore shouldn’t be strived for. Trial and error isn’t a sign of weakness, either. No two marriages are the same, so you have to work out what works best for you.
Providing you still remain independent, communicate and listen to one another, you’ll find your own way to nurture one another in the best way possible.
Food for thought indeed! Our thanks to Barker and Stonehouse for these top tips barkerandstonehouse.co.uk