Wedding planning stress getting on top of you? Life & wellbeing coach and blogger, Nova Reid, shares her top tips to help you manage it…
“Did you know there are thought to be over two hundred decisions to make when planning a wedding?
There’s no denying it, no sooner than you have yelled ‘yes‘ , bizarrely we suddenly feel a powerful urge to try to morph into something that I can only describe as “wonder-woman”. Suddenly we expect to be able to do everything, to plan every little detail alongside life, the day job, being a fiancé, being a parent, you name it. Perhaps why we are given that horrible title of “Bridezilla” from time-to-time.
For wedding couples, there are ridiculously high expectations to have a certain type of wedding, whilst navigating unexpected family politics and managing people. That and taking on the task of planning alongside a day job also adds to that pressure and can manifest in many weird and wonderful ways. Not to mention trying to navigate how to take on a new identity and role and learn to live “happily ever after”
It’s no wonder we can get overwhelmed or stressed; even a CEO would have trouble juggling this little lot!
When we get engaged we’re pummelled with information on trends, how to stay fit, eat healthy, or look after our skin. But not so much about looking after our emotional wellbeing.
What is stress?
Stress is feeling of being under too much pressure, which manifests leaving us feeling unable to cope. Stress can effect so many layers of our every day lives; from loss of concentration and difficulty sleeping, to constant worry and loss of appetite.
However, a stressful situation for one person may be a complete adrenaline rush for another. So recognising what your ‘own’ triggers are, can help nip it in the bud before it manifests into something unmanageable, or worse into ill health.
To help, I’ve put together 5 stress-busting tips to get you started
Feeling stressed should not be a permanent state (feeling). Whilst it may not feel like it at the time, you are in control of changing how you feel. One of the quickest ways to get rid of those unhelpful hormones is to do some exercise. Immediately.
2. Try Mindfulness
Mindfulness is an effective tool to help us focus on the present moment. It enables us to become more aware of our thoughts and feelings so we are better able to manage them. (Discover an introduction to mindfulness)
3. Ask for help
Remember those hundreds of decisions that need to be made? Well, take advantage of friends and families good will and talents. They would love to help, so assign a task to them. Anything from researching suppliers for you, to chasing RSVPs.
Delegate. You’re not superhuman. It’s ok to ask for help.
4. Time for two
Planning a wedding on top of a job and, well, life, can be a huge and unexpected undertaking. It can become very easy to neglect each other. Enjoy re-connecting and spending quality time with your partner that does not include any “wedding planning” chit chat.
5. Just for you
Do something just for you, each day. If that’s truly too hard then try a few times a week and build up.
Simple self-care can help keep stress at bay. From reading a book, ending your evening with a relaxing soak in the bath, listening to your favourite music, learning something new, journaling, adult colouring books, painting, drawing, dancing.
Whatever you’re into. Do it! Dedicate some ‘me time’ – you deserve it and your body and mind will thank you for it.
Remember, it is so easy to get swept away with the intricate details of wedding planning that it can take you away from the reason why you are doing this; to dedicate the rest of your life to your beloved. That remarkable human being you somehow met out of all the billions of people in the world. When we stop to take stock and remember this, it can be an instant stress reliever.”
Nova discovered the magic of the wedding industry after planning her own wedding in 2012 which led to becoming founder and editor of multi-award-winning wedding blog; Nu Bride; dedicated to adding a splash of diversity into the UK mainstream wedding industry. Nova is an established wedding expert, and frequent Mentor at Women of The World Festival.
Often described as inspirational, Nova is an accomplished public speaker, qualified NLP Life & Wellbeing Coach and mindfulness advocate, with 8 years extensive experience working in mental wellbeing and closely with organisations such as MIND charity.
Nova is passionate about promoting positive wellbeing, working with individuals and organisations holistically to encourage and inspire change. Nova has been practicing as a Life Coach for over four years with a variety of clients, who all share one thing in common; to elicit powerful change to enable them to live more fulfilling lives.