Got a wedding to attend? Make sure you’re on your best behaviour with our guide to the do’s and don’ts of wedding guest etiquette…
Many people think wedding etiquette only applies to the bride and groom on the big day but, according to the wedding coordinator’s at Forest of Arden Marriott Hotel & Country Club, there’s a comprehensive list of do’s and don’ts that guests ought to abide by – from the moment they receive the invite, to the minute the ceremony is over…
If a response date has been provided, make sure you stick to it. It’s stressful enough trying to organise a wedding without late responses from guests who haven’t stuck to the timeframe. If there isn’t a response date, reply as soon as possible and if there isn’t a response card be sure to reply using your own stationery.
Dress as the invitation suggests
You can deduce a lot about the kind of outfit you should be wearing by looking at the type of invite you receive. Is it relatively informal and playful, or is it scripted and traditional? If it’s the former, a smart-casual look will be appropriate while the latter will need formal wear. The type of venue will also be an indicator – is the ceremony taking place in a traditional church or luxury hotel? If so, opt for a more elegant look that would be deemed suitable for the occasion. If you’re still in doubt, we’d advise choosing something smart, rather than arriving on the day to discover you’re dressed too casually.
Go easy on the drink
It seems like an obvious one, but it’s the most common mistake amongst wedding guests – especially if there’s a free bar! Just remember the Big Day is often a long one, so it’s important to pace yourself and drink responsibly. It’s perfectly acceptable to have fun but a few drinks can easily turn into one too many and, in the worst cases, it could end up ruining the bride and groom’s special day.
When it comes to the wedding gift, be sure to respect the couple’s wishes. If they’ve asked only for money, then that’s exactly what you should give them. If they’ve asked for a gift and you want to go off-registry, perhaps a gift voucher for a special restaurant or an overnight stay in a nice hotel somewhere nearby. If you can’t attend the wedding itself but you’re relatively close to the couple, be sure to send a gift anyway to share your congratulations.
Posting on social media
Under no circumstances should you post anything on social media about the Big Day without the couple’s permission. They might not want their special day plastered all over Facebook and there’s nothing more frustrating than having the professional photos ruined because all the special moments have already been shared online. If the couple are happy for you to share photos on social media, wait until after the ceremony has taken place.
For more top tips and help planning your dream day, visit marriottweddings.co.uk today.