Planning a wedding can be stressful, so we’ve listed the best ways to combat common worries…
Your wedding is without doubt one of the most important, special days of you life, and you’ll want it to go as smoothly as possible. But no matter how good you are at planning, how efficient you are with money or how many months you have to get everything together, inevitably you will worry about more or less everything! We reveal the most common worries in the build up to the big day, and how to resolve them.
What if the suppliers don’t turn up?
You will have most likely met up with the suppliers you have chosen, and hopefully done your research on them before booking. Your photographer, florist, caterer etc are all professionals and will not let you down. The best way to put your mind at rest is to get the mobile numbers and emails of all your suppliers when you book, then keep in touch with them as the day nears. Send them a message to confirm times and running orders a week before the wedding. They will all reply and make you feel much better.
What if I have a beauty disaster?
There isn’t a lot you can do about a sudden outbreak of skin blemishes or mother nature springing a nasty surprise, but you can ensure some things don’t go wrong. Presumably you’ll be getting your hair done for the wedding? Make sure you give yourself at least a week or two before the wedding for this so you can fix any potential mishaps in time. Getting married in summer? Make sure you wear strapless tops before the wedding to avoid any odd tanlines. When it comes to skin care, don’t try any new products right before the big day. If you want to try something new give yourself at least a month of trying it beforehand.
Will my guests have fun?
Ask any couple what one of their biggest concerns is and nine times out of ten they’ll say that they want to make sure their guests have a great time. Entertaining your guests is important, but don’t feel you need to go overboard. As long as there are friends and family to mingle with, plenty of lovely food and drink, and great music, then that’s pretty much all your guests will need to have a good time. Throw in a bit of entertainment like a photobooth, maybe a live band or garden games and you’re on to a definite winner!
Will my family be able to get along for one day?
Unfortunately, clashing families are far too common. Although there may be tension between loved ones, if they care about you then they will be able to put their differences to one side for the day and simply keep out of each other’s way. If this is a big concern, just be thoughtful with the table plan, and perhaps have a word with the people in question before the wedding, telling them how important it is that they don’t cause a stir!
Do I want to get married?
Firstly, this is not an uncommon worry – people just don’t tend to admit it! Getting nervous is completely natural. When the planning is all in place and you then have time to think about life after the big day, it can be really daunting. What if it changes our relationship? Does it matter that I will never have first date butterflies again? Just remember – you’ve most likely been with your fiancé for years and this hasn’t worried you before, so why would marriage change that? Most couples say that tying the knot made their relationship even stronger, so there’s really no need to worry. If you need reassurance, chat to your fiancé about it, he might be just as nervous as you!
Will everyone turn up?
You’ve spent months, maybe even years planning this special day and the last thing you’ll want is for anyone to miss it, but these things can happen. The best thing to do it to have back-up day guests – people you’ve invited to the evening but are on the shortlist to be upgraded should anyone pull out. Make sure you have spare place name cards and cover-ups for the table plan just in case. On the day itself, it’s highly unlikely that anyone would be a no-show without prior warning, unless for very serious circumstances.
Will my wedding be rubbish compared to theirs?
Come on, admit it! Almost every bride-to-be that attends another wedding will have in the back of her mind, ‘how does this compare to mine?’ Essentially, every wedding is different, and no wedding is better or worse than anyone else’s. Weddings are about celebrating a marriage between two people, not about who gave the best gifts!
Did I choose the right dress?
With so many incredible designers out there, it’s really tempting to keep looking at the new designs after you’ve bought yours, but don’t do it! You felt amazing in your dress when you bought it, and although there are lots of lovely new designs coming through, they wouldn’t necessarily make you feel the same way your dress did.
Have I bought enough decorations?
The little details can make all the difference to a reception space, but likewise, too many can be overkill. Make sure you visit the venue a few times in the build up to the wedding and have a look at what decorations are needed, then when you’ve finished, leave it!
Will there be enough food in the evening?
This is a really tricky one. During the day you know how many guests you’ll be having for the wedding breakfast, so that’s easy, but ordering food for the evening is far more difficult. Many guests won’t want to eat much, if at all, in the evening after a hefty three-course meal, especially if you’ve got a sweetie bar, or other stalls with food to snack on throughout the evening. Also, most of the evening guests will have eaten before they arrive, so they won’t necessarily need lots to eat. As a general rule, if you were having 60 guests to the day and 40 to the evening, you would want to cater for approximately 70-75 people. If you’re having a hog roast or something similar, make sure you have enough buns for 100 people to even out between those who have a couple and those who have none.
Will guests expect a free bar?
Absolutely not! Everyone will expect to buy their own drinks after the speeches, so don’t worry about that. You’ve already fed and watered them for the majority of the day, so they should have no expectations to have free drinks all night. If you’re worried, maybe put in the invitations what time the bar will open and whether or not it accepts card or cash only, just to make things clear.
How do we ask for money instead of gifts?
It used to be tradition to ask for wedding gifts in the form of a list, but nowadays, many couples live together before getting married and therefore already have the home goods they need. Asking for money can be awkward, particularly with older generations, but insert a card into your invitations explaining that you do not need gifts so you won’t expect anything, but if they want to contribute money towards your honeymoon, you would really appreciate it.
Have I forgotten something?
The inevitable last-minute panic! The best way to combat this is to make lists. Tick off everything as you go and add anything that comes up along the way. Check and triple check these lists before the wedding to ensure you’re on top of everything. If it’s not on the list then it doesn’t matter!
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