This month Marie Haverly, The Wedding Expert and Founder of
Isabella Weddings, makes choosing your bridesmaids a little bit easier…
Being engaged is such a lovely feeling – knowing that you’re soon going to be celebrating with your besties and having the most amazing day of your life! Now, surely picking the bridal party is the easy bit right? You know your girls and they all love you, so of course recruiting the bridesmaids should be straightforward. However, as any brides will know, the reality of choosing who’s going to ‘make the cut’ can be worse than the school sport’s teams selection!
You have 4 best friends, 2 sisters, 1 sister-in-law and an enviable collection of close friends and family who all want to be part of your wedding. You can only afford to have 3 bridesmaids and your groom is having 3 groomsmen so this makes sense for you to keep the numbers the same. What should you do?
Should your sisters take priority, they are family after all? Or maybe your best friends feature higher up the list?
We often find brides feeling so stressed and upset over this subject and although I’d love to tell you there was a simple way to solve this problems, there is often no simple solution. However, I can pass on some advice, which may help you to make a better choice and one that you feel comfortable with:
Do you really have to choose?
This sounds silly but is there a way you can involve everyone rather than choosing between the girls? Perhaps they could perform different roles on the day, such as doing a reading, being a witness or helping with the planning.
Work around the budget
If the budget is the constraint then try looking at it from another angle, if you have 7 bridesmaids then would they be willing to contribute towards their outfits so that your budget can accommodate everyone.
Make it simple
Do you have to have any bridesmaids at all? Sometimes the only way to keep everyone happy is to not choose at all.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure everyone feels involved. Even if you have to choose then make sure the other girls have a part to play and keep them involved throughout your plans.
Just remember this is your day, there are no rules. Your bridesmaids don’t have to match the groomsmen; you can have everyone or no one. My advice would be to take your time, talk things through and be open and honest, – your friends and family will really appreciate you for that.