Every couple wants a stress-free day, so we asked MD of Fwd: Events, Danny Johnson, for his advice on banishing wedding woes…
How do we say we can’t afford ‘plus ones’?
Deciding on a guest list is a tricky task in any case, but adding plus ones into the mix can be the making of a nightmare. There isn’t an official etiquette for plus ones, but I would advise considering each couple on your list and working from there. If they have only been together for a few weeks or months, then it’s acceptable to only invite the friend; if the couple are engaged or married, then they should be considered as a unit. If you simply can’t afford to invite everyone and their other halves to the ceremony, contact your guests before you send out the invites and explain that costs per head were too high, but then invite their plus one to the evening.
I’m worried we can’t get our dream day with our budget
With the average wedding in the UK costing £22,000, it’s important to set yourselves a realistic budget. I always recommend visiting a wedding fair if you’re unsure about how much wedding cakes, flowers, stationery and favours cost. This will give a good indication about what you can and can’t afford, what inspires you and ways in which you can stick to your budget in the long-run. You should also consider the technical and practical skill sets among your family and friends. Very often, your auntie, friend from university and former housemate are more than happy to help out – from designing your invitations to baking your wedding cake. This makes the day more personalised and unique as well.
We haven’t budgeted for wedding insurance
We all think that it will never happen to us, but it will happen to someone. I rescued a couple once whose hotel reception fell through a fortnight before the big day. Luckily, they had the insurance to cover themselves so that we could focus on sourcing a venue and catering (which we did and it was a beautiful day!) – but that story could have played out very differently. Wedding insurance starts from as little as £15… £15 that might turn out to be priceless.
There are so many wedding suppliers out there for us to choose from, how do we pick?!
Always remember that vicars, registrars, photographers and DJs are the face of your wedding; the reputation of
your day does somewhat rely upon them. This is a word-of-mouth industry and with a bit of research it can be easy to discover what kind of atmosphere, style and service a person creates and whether they are right for you. If you are able to do so, it might be worth asking your DJ if you could watch them at another event and meet your photographer to go through their wedding albums before booking. If they’re not keen to do so, then that’s probably your answer!
Not all of our guests have RSVPed and there are only weeks to go
Never presume that radio silence is a ‘no’. Very often, it’s the other way around and family think you already know they’re coming – why wouldn’t they? Check with everyone on your guest list and ensure all RSVPs are accounted for.
We’re struggling to keep everyone happy with our top table plan
The truth is that it will be hard to please everyone – and this includes the happiest of families. If you have step parents, this makes the process a lot harder. You could mix up the traditional top table by seating different members of the main wedding party across all tables. For instance, mum and stepdad with mum’s immediate family; dad and stepmum with her children and then the best man with friends. This way every guest feels special and you avoid any potential issues and awkward silences – hopefully!
One of our bridesmaids is pregnant and will no longer fit into her dress
While it is productive to find and buy your bridesmaids’ dresses and groomsmen’s suits early on in the wedding planning process, it can lead to alterations as the big day draws near. This can be timely and expensive – especially if a bridesmaid falls pregnant and their bump is growing by the week! My advice on avoiding this issue is simple: find yourself a good, local tailor and seamstress. By all means buy the outfits, but ensure the tailor is booked a couple of weeks before to optimise the fit.
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